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So how do empaths deal with other people's emotions? I have such a hard time separating myself from other people's energies and emotions. I was hanging out with a friend yesterday. My friend was quite depressed and in pain. The whole time I was with her, I could feel her pain, her anxiety, her feelings of being lost, being unloved. I didn't know how to console her except giving her company... mostly because she didn't want to be consoled. But the hardest part was to feel all these emotions all day as if they were mine. Its always like that, though. I seem to carry a lot of pain that isn't my own.... added to the pain that is my own.
Sometimes I feel so lost in this quagmire of vibrations where I don't know what's me and what's not me. Its really hard to make decisions about my life, since I am not really sure that what I'm feeling is my own. Meditation helps a whole lot. But what else can I do to keep myself safe from wayward energies?
Sometimes I feel so lost in this quagmire of vibrations where I don't know what's me and what's not me. Its really hard to make decisions about my life, since I am not really sure that what I'm feeling is my own. Meditation helps a whole lot. But what else can I do to keep myself safe from wayward energies?
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Re: How do empaths deal with other people's emotions?
Wed, April 11, 2007 - 9:11 PMIt can help to visualize grounding them into the earth. Visualize a cord going from your second chakra or just from the bottom of your body down into the earth, and then allow all of the energies that are not your own to just fall down into the earth away from you.
You could then fill up your body with whatever you imagine to be your own energies, say a few golden suns containing just universal you energy entering the top of your head and filling up you with you : )
Sometimes I just shake off other people's energies or jump up & down to release them or fill myself up with clear light and breathe out everything that is not me. . Whatever you choose, you have a great imaginative ability so use whatever images work for you..
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Wed, April 11, 2007 - 11:56 PMThe only way I've been able to do this with only partial success is to begin to know my own Self better. I think what the other poster mentioned about grounding and finding your own way to dump residuals..is right on the mark. For me personally however, the only way I was able to begin to find some balance was through connecting with my Self and that really doesn't sound like what you're going through. You seem balanced to me. Physical excersize helps me as well... Yoga inparticular because I can breath and work myself at the same time. When I'm done I'm physically tired, open and balanced so I can refresh. I think that's my way of grounding.
WIth my friends, I don't stop the feeling, I can't really but I've accepted it because it helps me to truly comfort them if I know what they're feeling & like you said they don't always want comfort, they just want to be and they don't want to do it alone which makes things a bit uncomfortable for you for a day : ( And with the mountain of other people, I've found that most of the time I have a pretty active on / off switch most of the time. I'm really grateful for that.
You're a true friend and so wonderful for choosing not to turn your back. I wish you comfort and needed breaks when your own Soul needs to breathe. I wish there was something solid I could give you here... other will have good ideas for you...there's a lot of resourceful folks around here : )
Love,
Katrina
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Re: How do empaths deal with other people's emotions?
Thu, April 12, 2007 - 8:50 AMCreating a sheild of protection around you every day. And visualizing. Allow the energy that moves into your sheild to be released after you have connected with it. And as it is released and moves back out of your protection field, it is turned into millions of sparkly fairy dust particles. It is being faced, accepted, and then released to be free to go back into the Universe's natural order of things. I feel as an empath that we may need to see ourselves as sort of filters... -
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Thu, April 12, 2007 - 12:32 PMSaid very beautifully Heather-I somehow often get lost in this energy thing,but I can Identify with the filter.I sense and feel the pain,accept what is-but always find a never ending-Why is....the rationality of people always seems to amaze me to WHY......but then again,I get emotional on alot of topics,but not allowing my emotions to make me a victim too.I just feel for them. -
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Wed, April 18, 2007 - 6:16 AMReiki is what keeps me going, if I don't do it I end up in a quagmire of my on making, I seem to be running around like a chicken with his head cut off, my day is just a mess, reiki keeps me grounded, relaxed and happy, better able to deal with the world
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Thu, April 12, 2007 - 4:04 PMThank you everyone for sharing these methods. I will try these out and see which one works. I guess we are all different and so have different ways of dealing with the world. I'm just gonna have to keep trying different methods until I find the one that works for me.
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Fri, April 13, 2007 - 7:59 PMHere's a method that seems to be working well for me.... mental repetition of a mantra.... like Om or some other such word that one considers sacred. I have a mantra given to me by my spiritual teacher. I repeat it mentally and its been helping me keep myself centered and safe from outside influences. I still perceive the vibrations around me but am not so overtaken by them. Why didn't I think of this before? Sometimes we already know the answer to our questions but don't know where to look. It seems to be my experience that the answer almost always lies WITHIN!!!!
Thanks again everyone for your kind responses.
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Fri, April 13, 2007 - 9:23 PMSometimes just asking the question forces you to probe deeper and look at a thing when otherwise, you would have 'just dealt with it'. Glad you asked! Glad you found something that's working for you.... YAY!!!
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Sun, April 15, 2007 - 9:54 PMYou are so right. It helps to voice the question. It also helps to be part of a tribe where people understand what I am talking about! YAY!!!! Most people I'm around don't understand me and just think that I'm being oversensitive. But its so great to have found this tribe with such understanding and supportive people. Double YAY!!!!!
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Mon, April 16, 2007 - 9:52 AMYes- I agree. When you voice an opinion aor advice or a question, it helps you to learn something about yourself, and solidify your beliefs. Many times when I advise I find that it is something that I'm voicing to myself. We can teach ourselves by teaching one another. So, thank you for asking questions because without the questions I wouldn't have the opportunity to learn from myself. -
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Mon, April 16, 2007 - 10:32 PMLike being in a strange dream, I feel my intuition
and follow the path of gentleness.
Compassion is always the best choice towards yourself and to help others.
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Tue, April 17, 2007 - 1:56 PMI have a great struggle on this issue. Tought it i might have learned some tricks of the trade. One way to deal with it is to keep in mind that it,s an outer source poluting your system. Just like passive smoking. It also helps emotionally to define that this is happening. Is this me or somone else? Cant be me, i was happy 1 min ago and had no reason to change my mind! Everyone is leaking without knowing so. Hardest people to deal with is the ones i call the `` primates´´ That is, agressive, impatient people that thinks in squares. It hit,s at you like a cold shower when they are around. Especially when they show agression or hard labour. It,s also very easy to be effected by. Some of these people has a smell to them that resembles fart, somone ever noticed?
There is something i cant solve tought. I believe alot of peoples power and ability to send energy ( or what they really do i dont know) is in the eyes. If people stare or look at me it affects me 95% out of 100. It,s like a persons expectations starts to play out in what i do.
Got into alot of trouble at work due to this. Everything runs smooth untill some specific `` staring´´ individuals shows up.. and then the circus starts. Today i even freaked out at one of them and had to tell this person that this was happening since the same thing happened 4 times.. all of them when he was there staring.. We are not talking about mallochio/ the evil eye or jinxes here. It,s something that happens to often and with alot of people. Any tought on that? How do you ward of the powerfull stare of people expecting you to mess up?
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Tue, April 17, 2007 - 9:38 PMI also get messed up when people stare at me with negative intent/thought. Its a hard one to deal with because you are not just passively picking up random energies. The negative energy is intentionally directed towards you and only you. I just try to keep myself centered and focused. I try to increase my positive intent and energy to counteract the negativity. But sometimes I just have to leave or let the person know how they are affecting me. Its almost a thing of whose energy is stronger, mine or the other person's. Who ever is stronger will affect the other person. So I guess meditate or do whatever you need to do to make your positivity stronger than the negativity of the world.
As for the smells... yes, thoughts have a subtle smell. Positive thoughts and energies make a person naturally smell good. Negative thoughts and intent makes you smell bad.
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Wed, April 18, 2007 - 8:17 PMThe fart thing is too funny but I cant relate on that..the staring...I can feel that from others ....but "I "especially tend to do it without realizing it......thats how I transfer most of my energy and feelings......Ive been told not to do it by my firends and relatives because they say they can see it when I get into that state almost like a trance......its a powerful thing..the eyes! -
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Re: How do empaths deal with other people's emotions?
Wed, April 18, 2007 - 8:31 PMI get pulled by other people's state and emotions way too easily.
Meditation and the practice of mantra repetition has helped immensely.
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Tue, April 17, 2007 - 9:40 PMAh! Beautiful! Gentleness and compassion.... the only way to be. If someone comes at you with a sword, be like water and fall at their feet.
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Wed, April 18, 2007 - 6:26 AMI've always been support for those I love, so in times of sadness and pain, I actually (I'll admit this) become vampiric (sp) and take some of their hurt, pain & anguish away. I deal with it, don't know how sometimes though, but I do... -
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Wed, April 18, 2007 - 8:23 AMI think sheilding is the best way although I am not an expert. I get so overwhelmed sometimes withothers energies I feel like I am going to be swallowed up so sometimes I run away or hide! These days I think being grounded and centred is the best way to mantain my own energy and boundaries...knowing that I am going to get emeshed and confused sometimes. It's inevitable. However, I think grounding& meditation& shielding are the best tools. Beth
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Wed, April 18, 2007 - 1:59 PMI find my peace amid other's turmoil with self awareness and various protective, supportive gems and crystals. -
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Wed, April 18, 2007 - 3:17 PMgrounding, centering, middlle pillar exercises, chakra balancing, meditation, being alone sometimes. -
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Wed, April 18, 2007 - 3:37 PMi pick and choose when to be around these people, mostly try not to but i dont have any friends other then my ones here....i pretty screwed up when it comes to this question because i have chosen to go and lock myself away from it, because the pain is sometimes if not at all times to great for me.....
my main problem is getting out what i really feel and trying to decifer if its mine or someone elses, it takes will i know that but how much, if i deal with a person thats having problems i immedieatly take it into myself, its like it sees a hole and its launch time for it.....
im trying to learn to be a hard ass, but damn its hard, and i have a truck load of my own problems, i dont need others, but i always seem to make room.....still learning...... -
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Wed, April 18, 2007 - 8:04 PMBeing social can be difficult for me too, especially when I am around lots of people. So many energies, so much chaos, so much pain. And it seems that most people in this world are in pain, the planet, nature are in pain. Its really too much sometimes.
But then its hard for me to always be alone. I feel really imbalanced and isolated. So I choose the middle path. I try to be around positive people and in positive environments. But even that doesn't work sometimes, since everyone has both positivity and negativity. But I take it as a challenge, a lesson, or a spiritual exercise. I am around people and try my best to stay centered. Then I come home, meditate and be alone for a while. It seems to be working pretty well. That way I get to keep my balance and enjoy company.
Have you tried meditation? I remember coming home from visiting people and just crying out all that I absorbed. But then when I would meditate it would really soothe my inner turmoil, bring peace, and melt away all outer energies. I feel that over the years, I have gotten stronger because of the meditations. Though I still have my moments though.... I would really recommend meditation.
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Thu, April 19, 2007 - 11:38 AMWow, Kompal, sometimes I just don't. Energy globs onto me and I don't know how to dispel it. One technique in particular helps.Put your hands on the ground and say forcefully "All that is not mine, fall away from me now,." several times I might add until you feel more balanced. Or in the shower, imagine particular types of ions falling off your body - mostly the energy in some form. I feel so run down right now though. I don't know what to do with myself today as I have nothing to do. Its not that I think I'm am empath, I know I'm one. -
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Mon, April 23, 2007 - 12:44 PMI have had a hard time with this myself. Until I began to realize that if I paid attention to the kinds of energies I was letting in, it showed me where my weakness was. So I began to use that as a tool. How was I being affected and by whom? What were my triggers? The more aware I became of what made me lose my center, the better I became able to come back to my center. And also stay there. I think that if we just blindly try and shield ourselves, we might miss out on where our weaknesses are being highlighted. That is just my perspective based on my experiences. This is not to say that it is everyone's experience. I would just offer that if you find yourself losing your emotional center due to outside influence, observe yourself and these influences to see how they are making you lose your center so that you can begin to heal you own wounds that have left you susceptable to these energies. I would use all of this as a gift of vision to learn more about yourself. Just my 2 cents. For I figure, everything is here to empower me... so how will I perceive it? From an empowered state or a disempowered one..... -
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Sun, April 29, 2007 - 4:33 AMSekhmet great idea you got there! Thanx . All that is not mine fall away from me. * put,s a note in my head* Sounds like something that works fast and effective.
I read somewhere about a chackra technique. That energy connect to the chackras. By cloosing them the energy cant reach. Tought im no expert on that. -
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Sun, April 29, 2007 - 3:25 PMThanks - as for your idea, all I have on that is to say that you don't close your chakras all the way. You could die, so I hear. I don't know how right that is. I've got to do that little grounding technique anyway right about now - thanks for the reminder. -
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Mon, April 30, 2007 - 5:48 AMThe knowledge of knowing it's not your emotions helps and tehn you apply the love of self and the love of life to your feelings and take a few moments to seperate and own up to your personal feelings, and not those of people who you are in contact with. -
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Mon, April 30, 2007 - 9:31 AMI just feeling like I am healing myself or others all the time.
To me that is the sane response to this oversensitivity, or should I say over-sensibility?
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