What Eniad has written will work, though it's just a temporary solution and may even make things worse. Here's my comments:

1.) Vigorous excessive. Even simply just stretching will help ground you back into your body. Eating food etc. Often we are pulled away into others feelings/thoughts. So sensation of the body will temporarily pull you back in. After some time, that won't work anymore as your system becomes immune to this method.

2.) Listening to music, watching movies... basically distracting methods such as smoking are also a great help. They take your attention away. In the moment of very intense issues this can shock you out. So it's a good instant solution but it only lasts a little bit. The underlying issue will persist and keep returning. As it keeps returning, your old methods of distraction will get weaker and the underlying unconscious forces that get you to these situations will only get stronger.

3.) Any kind of "doing" to distract you is depending on "doing" or "effort" and is not natural. As soon as you relax, all that shit will come up again. If you want a true solution, trace back and get to know yourself. You won't know yourself like an object/thought/feeling, though as you withdraw your energy from paying attention to others feelings/thoughts, and as you stop feeding your energy to thoughts be they positive or negative your energy returns back to you.. as this happens naturally people will be able to feel more relaxed, see more clearly, taste food better, basically all senses get purified... as you proceed your mind gets more silent... thoughts will come and go... please don't try to shut down thoughts or stop them... as that will only demonically them and they will come back to attack.

However, if you incorporate what Eniad has suggested with the underlying attention to returning back to your self, and yourself isn't some idea or concept... it's a kind of awareness and sense of well being, being localized/anchored in your physical body at this time... you can't quiet say it's your body either... so using certain centers in the body be they physical or psychic won't work for too long either...it's a little different for everyone, so it's best to make your own journey... follow back...

for example... as you read what I'm writing here... notice there is an awareness behind your ability regonize these letters and words and language, behind the interpreter, behind the one that contemplated shapes and forms... what if you had no idea what you were looking at... see how you can see these words without buying into what they mean... that's a way to withdraw your attention. Then close your eyes and feel your physical visual cortex... see how it just takes in images... and they go into your brain which gets interpreted... samet hing you can do with feelings, sounds, emotions... notice the space which is perceiving it... and as that space is beyond any thought, it's beyond even the concept/thought of "I"... you can not say anything about it... there's no concept of you or I

As a suggestion... here are a few teachers that you can search their names on YouTube.com and find many great insights... AdyaShanti Mooji "Eckhart Tolle" "Gangaji"

These are all currently alive teachers. I've personally met and spoken with Mooji and AdyaShanti

I don't advocate smoking nor anything unhealthy such as overeating (many people are stuck there) though the one-a-yaer drunk all night party used to be fun for me.
Sure removed a few spider webs.(try the spinning motion).

This is just a quick way to ground back in your body since they are our homes here and get moving again.

I will address this not so much as a learned healer , but from the perspective of a dog owner who has been through the same issue very recently. I also went through the break up of an engagement , and other losses around the same time , and speak from my perspective on this.

We sometimes fall down , so we can pick ourselves up again stronger. Someone said that to me one day , at my lowest point , at that time I thought of it to be very insensitive, but have since changed that opinion somewhat. Not so long ago, Betty , our beloved friend and family member , who also happened to be a 120 lb Rottweiler became very ill. She was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor that had grown silently and quite unnoticed in he bone of her skull , until it began to press on her brain, causing severe symptoms in a very short time . There was nothing we could do , but make her last days with us as comfortable as possible. About ten years ago , I lost my best friend Spike , an English Bull Terrier to an ostio sarcoma , a form of bone cancer growing behind his sinus , and then too was faced with the same difficult situation.

I felt a part of myself lost , that I wanted more time,as my friends passed on to the other side of the veil, yet I knew , that they were in a place , where there was no more pain, they were at their prime , running happily in sunny fields , with full bellies and surrounded by loved ones . I also know , that there they will wait , until the day we go to that place , and are reunited once more. My faith was born of living through loss, of which the loss of my beloved pets , my friends and family member that had always loved me unconditonally , was a large part.

I am surrounded by four pawed furry family members , three cats and two dogs , sleeping comfortably as the evening becomes night . My life significantly fuller by their being here , but I accept , that the day will undoubtedly come , where I may once again be faced with such difficult choices as they become ill or the years take their toll. But I am ok with that , because it is my job , as a member of their pack, to ensure that they do not ever feel pain , or suffer , as a result of my own inability to allow them to move on when their time comes. I know that there will be a time , when we are again reunited , and they will be grateful that I would be strong enough to allow them to pass on when their time came.

I know what you are feeling , I know it is one of the most difficult times a person must endure , but it is an unfortunate reality for us with longer lives , than the furry friends that enrich our existence with allowing us to share their pack. There are no words that I can say to take away your pain or sense of loss , for that is a part of what it is to share our life with animals . But I can tell you that this parting is only temporary, and you will one day , which in truth is such a small blink of an eye in the grander scheme of the universe , be re united with your pal.

I second that!!

Meditation has been a very important tool for me. The more you practice, the more effective it is...

Meditation that focus on grounding are very helpful for me... I need a lot of grounding... :)

also if you have access to a bath tube, a warm bath with Epsom salts can dissipate excess energey in the body... I learned this one from Antonio Alli, and it works wonders for me...

"So my advice to you is not to try and get out of it, but to get through it. "


That is a great point , adjusting how we view the hardship , and turning our keel to the wave of tough stuff to pass through or over it , rather than trying to out run it. I found in my own experiences , that during the end of my relationship , as an empath , I was feeling allot of my partners anger and disappointment , and my own feelings only surfaced once I had walked away. I had been so busy with other peoples emotions , I had forgotten to take care of myself.

Many time we are left doubting ourselves , as a reflection of what we pick up from other people, a break up is tough enough , adding our empathic gifts on top of that , can become overwhelming. Finding activites that are good for ones soul , and body , can be incredibly helpful. I began walking long distances and meditating , spending time in nature , and after some time , my pain , had turned into fuel for positive change. The pain has long since diminished , but the healthy practices remain as a constant in my life even this day....


( forgive me for giving two answers to this thread , I found from personal reflection , based upon my own experience, that these two issues are easier for me to comment on separately )

Jay,

A hot shower certainly helps cleanse the aura. However, a long hot shower will significantly drain your energy. It's important to remember to take a short hot shower.