We are trained to be totally and fully honest as a child with our parents. As a child, in the beginning, we often don't even realize that there is something that that parent's don't know; so we don't even realize we can lie until maybe 3-4 years old.

Perhaps when you are connecting, you are connecting similar to how a child connects to its parents. Perhaps there might be an underlying unmet feeling, a need for mother/father affection/attention that comes through and your inner child is kicking in. This is a beautiful and healing experience, and should be looked at attentively, with awareness and love.

A real therapist maybe of help for you to go through this. There are various energy work, somatic experiencing based body work, and various sorts of workshops that can also be sought to enhance the therapy work.

The other reason for talking a lot which also directly relates is feeling of insecurity, fear of rejection, and various unmet needs such as above. Therapy is really a good place to start to gain a better awareness of this stuff; we all have this kind of stuff in various degrees and the sooner we come to learn to love, understand, nurture ourselves the healthier and more functional human beings we become in relationships, be they work, personal, etc.

Namasteh

I relate to what you guys are saying. I think it comes down to discernment. Just like being an empath/sensitive, in general, we might pick up a lot of stuff but we have a choice what we take in and mention about it. Not everyone wants to know that you can see what they mean rather then what they are saying. If we don't learn that then we run the risk of people feeling hostile or insecure around us and rightly so - it is intrusive.

I also relate to what David says about wanting the other person to really understand where we are coming from. I'm practicing say nothing until I feel aligned (doesn't always work, lol) then only the information that matches the understanding of the other will roll out of my mouth. I think as we gain confidence in ourselves and have forums like this Tribe we will feel less of a need to "drop our drawers" in front of people who don't actually relate.

Another reason I think I used to do this more is because I wanted to either find a like connection or find out if it was a bust right at the beginning (how real can I be with this person and how shocked are they going to be over who I am).

I once went to an Al-anon meeting and they mentioned, right off, a way to tell if someone is in need of counseling assistance is that they tell you more then you really need to know when you first meet them. They are not used to being listened to and/or heard and should realize that as a sign to get professional counseling (be witnessed and heard by someone who could actually assist you). I took that info. to heart and actually met with a energetically beautiful counselor - she witnessed and listened and the first time in my life (at then age 25) I was HEARD and she could assist me by what she heard.

After practicing with people who really HEAR you the desire to blurt out personal information without discernment will start to fade because you begin to be fed by and resonate with those who relate to you. Thus, as we make higher quality connections the desire to connect with just anyone is no longer enticing.