Why can’t we meet in small groups?

topic posted Thu, April 17, 2008 - 11:20 PM by  Teddy
Imagine if you will the following sceen.

A small room, occupied by 3 to 10 people of various ages. There is a knock at the door. An empath--new to the group--enters and has this feeling they have never had before. They think, not say, “Oooooooh Myyyyyyy”. Several people speak, not think, “Oh My! Indeed!”. And then the whole room bursts into tears for at least 10 minutes. They are crying, not because they are sad, but because the all feel an incredible joy; they know another one has found a place to belong: a place to be understood: a place to learn and share.

Is this story so impossible? I don’t think so. We all live somewhere. Some of use live in the same general local. I did a search on the Internet of “Empath Support Group” and got ZERO hits. I know we can change that. Am I alone in my dream?
posted by:
Teddy
SF Bay Area
  • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

    Fri, April 18, 2008 - 9:13 AM
    Check out this link if you want to meet up with empaths in your area. empath.meetup.com/

    There's one in my city too.. but I haven't gone to one yet.... I read at the website below that it could be not so good for two empath's to get together. Not sure though.. I'm really curious to meet another empath in person.

    www.psi-zone.net/aboutme/empath.htm
    "When two empaths get together...

    Two empaths together can be a fatal combination if both get caught on a spiraling downwards circle. For instance, one might pick up their partner being distressed and down. This will distress them, which will in turn cause them to feel even more stressed and down, which will further distress the partner, and so on.

    The problem with this cycle is that things might well return back to normal very quickly if they weren't being perpetuated by the other. Having experienced this, I often got frustrated that things would go well beyond where they should have because we kept on feeding of each other.

    One way to break this cycle is to name it and discuss what is happening. As the tendency is to not discuss what is happening, this can be harder than it seems, especially if you feel that you're on a rapid downhill slide and all you wish to do is curl up and hide away in a hole from the rest of the world.

    Another annoying thing with two high level empaths is that if you are focused on your partner, friend, or whatever, and you take your attention away from them, even if they are on the other side of the world, they will pick up on this instantly. Let me tell you that this is not only no fun, but it is incredibly draining. Empathic people should not get together unless they have their powers under control.

    Being an empath can be quite a challenge. Many don't know they are empaths and many have no clue what to do with such an ability."
    • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

      Fri, April 18, 2008 - 12:16 PM
      Fire can burn you; it can scar you for life; it can even kill you. Does that make fire evil and something to be avoided? No. Fire can also keep you warm on a cold night, cook your food or help you see in the dark. The secret is learning to respect fire and to set up the proper containment for it.
      • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

        Fri, April 18, 2008 - 10:29 PM
        Yeah... Hello, I think we find each other. Often. But yes, a formal group, a "safe" space... I cannot imagine- in a small town I have safe niches within different fields/arenas of life and action. It seems a group specifically full of empaths might get ...sticky. And waht to do in the group? How to "support"? Aren't we empaths tending to support whomever, wherever, in general? It is my wary sense that a support group would be... could be a spiral of ranting and ... even accusation (expectation) of support...?
        • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

          Sat, April 19, 2008 - 1:09 AM
          A short list of why to meet:

          1) Closets are for clothes; we are not freaks who need to hide.
          2) Healers need healing too.
          3) Empaths will always understand empaths better than non-empaths.
          4) Seeing is believing.
          5) We can teach each other so much.
          6) Two or more, can do more than one can.
          7) Not all emotions are negative.
          8) Group energy can help strengthen individual gifts.
          9) Exploration of Group Empathy.
          10) We can help change (heal) the destructive direction of society.
          11) The empathic children of the world need us.
          12) Helping someone makes you feel good.
          13) We can help non-empaths to understand us better.
          14) Isolation is hurting us.
          15) We all need to recharge our “batteries”.
          16) It is not shameful to say “I need help”.
          17) Empathy is a human characteristic that deserves encouragement.
          18) Being part of a group could help birth other psychic gifts.
          • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

            Sat, April 19, 2008 - 1:16 AM
            Everyone should meet up who wants to - I'm sure many can find support groups at the link I posted earlier. There are some controversial ideas about it online and among other empaths obviously - but I think whoever feels ready for it should go for it.
  • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

    Tue, April 22, 2008 - 7:51 PM
    Hey, I'm on board, as long as we can skip the crying part :) I live in Portland, and I meet empathic people all the time. They are of varying degrees of course, but all sensitives. I'd love to meet more.
    • It has been my privilege to study this concept for more than 25 years, and the conclusion at which I have arrived is this:

      We have been told to reject the cyclical nature of high and low, happiness and sad, but the fact is, these oscillations are the perfect and natural order of things.

      Since I realized this, speaking as a highly functioning empath, I have been able to easily negotiate a higher and higher frequency of these oscillations, to the point where they are just about a couple of days apart now sometimes. Each new barrier I am, able to break brings only more focus and more clarity to what is actually going on. I would LOVE to hang with others who know this and/or are ready to learn. You cannot be afraid of ANYTHING that presents itself to be processed and cleared, and it gets mighty dark and ugly, let me tell you.

      However, THE TIME IS NOW. We came here to create a New Earth. What are we waiting for?

      LOVE TO ALL
      (from behind the Orange Curtain)
      dave
  • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

    Wed, April 23, 2008 - 10:49 PM
    I'm absolutely pro meeting in small groups but I keep my real identity hidden online for safety.

    I'd love to meet you Teddy and I'd definitely be up for meeting other people. In fact, there is a group called Meetup.com that has a bunch of ways to become a moderator for such groups. My therapist, who knows about empaths and doesn't think I'm nuts, actually wants to host a group for us one day. I was wondering if you're up to meeting elsewhere other than San Francisco however, perhaps half way?
    • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

      Fri, April 25, 2008 - 11:47 AM
      I would be up to meeting others outside of San Francisco. I don't have a car, so public transportation to the area is a must.

      What kind of a group does your therapist wish to host? I am slightly skeptical on this one, I do not see myself in need of therapy . . . if this group asked me to spend $$$ for "professional assistance", I would become even more skeptical.
      • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

        Fri, April 25, 2008 - 12:26 PM
        I think you make excellent points for why you're wanting to network, personally, with other Empaths, Teddy. I'd be "in" but I live in Indiana. (Far, far away from anything remotely exciting-such as meeting like-minded people.) : )

        Trin
      • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

        Fri, April 25, 2008 - 11:01 PM
        No, she herself understands these things. I'm not going to gift-drop or anything like that but she won't be mining for clientel or anything like that. She's just hoping to facilitate a group experience. So am I. She's a transpersonal type with her mind wrapped around the whole situations we face.
  • Re: Why can’t we meet in small groups?

    Sat, April 26, 2008 - 1:10 PM

    Go to the first Psychic Fair or Holistic Health Event in your area. Go to every single one every single time you can. This is a great place to meet other empaths. I have also found bookstores, coffeeshops, and 'tool' shops,(incense, sage, and stuff) a place where people post flyers for events and services. Check these out, and others will be there looking for others the same as you. Then you can offer to start a group. Blessings.

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