Hi Beth :) Do you mean: the contracts that we make with people before we come in; cords that we create from day to day connections; or something completely different?

Are you talking about Holy Contracts, which are called Covenants, in reference, those in the Bible, between God and his People or between two people, with spiritual values or between one and etc?

David

We always have our agency, as granted to us by God. It was set then Christ adopted Gods plan and rejected Satan's plan to force every one to follow the rules, well if those are ones beliefs.

When I met my present wife, I was not looking for her, and she in no way fit any idealistic view I had in my head; in fact in many ways, the exact opposite. I needed a Reiki therapist for some energy work, but could not find one in the area where I grew up in CA, and where I returned in 1995. I did meet a female church member who was a Shiatsu therapist and decided to try that form of energy work. When she first started to work on me, and she started filtering energy through her body from mine. I knew instantly, that we had agreed to help each other if we met. I had had two previous bas marriages, and she 4. First wife left me, could not supply her emotional and exaggerated nympho sexual needs, my second was verbally and mentally abusive so I left her after 15 years.

She had had her first husband of about 12 plus years, send her and the kids to his mothers, and then once there, told her it was over, and not long after, his mother literally kicked her and her 5 sons, aged young teens to a baby out the front door with snow on the ground, with the youngest having cerebral palsy and not able to walk.

She had the same impression of our past personal relationship before we came to earth, and the aware of the same agreement. The kids are gone now, except one is back living in a trailer in our driveway. What person in their sane mind would normally marry a person with 5 rowdy boys, most were teenagers or older. Kids mentally whacked some on drugs or already budding alcoholics and doing petty theft to pay for his fix. When we married, I found my wife would hide in the bedroom to escape them, they ran the house, but slowly I changed that to some degree until they finally left and then some came back and left again.

Was it easy, is it even easy now, not exactly, but we love each other and our bond and friendship goes beyond the hear and now The longer we have been together, the more we are becoming one, and the more we see why we came together. In both out common weakliness and strength and individual strengths, we see why we came together to help each other find out way back.

A totally binding contract no, as we always have agency. But when we choose what we feel and know is right deep within us, miracles happen. But one does not see them, if you give up to easily or early. That is not to say, we should stay in abusive relationships, this relationship has been difficult and trying, but not abusive like the previous one was. That one, the longer we were together, the farther we apart we became, this relationship, the longer we are together, the closer we are and the more we think and act a like and the deeper loves grows.

Even with covenents/Contracts with God, you still have agency to choose yes or no. I find many do exactly that, many times knowing and many times not even knowing they made one.


David

I was just 22 when I learned about "taking responsibility for yourself". That was a milestone event. I learned that blaming others, was turning over my power to them-- as in-- if they were at fault, then I must wait on them to correct the situation or give me what I want. But once I moved into the mindset of taking responsibility for myself-- suddenly-- I was in control of my own life. If there was something I didn't like, it was up to me to change it, or live with it. The decision was always mine.

Now, at a later age, there is another milestone mindset that has transformed my life and my ability to direct my own destiny.

It's called, "personal accountability". It's simply being accountable to oneself. It's a little game you play with yourself. Once you understand how the games works, you can accomplish great tasks, with little if any discomfort.

As an adult we are all held by our word. When we promise to do something we must do it, even if we rather now. It's a simple fact of life-- one of the three pillars of civilization. Very often when we give our word to do something-- it is the very act of giving our word-- that motivates us to push on, in spite of any setbacks-- to complete the promised task. We all do this. It's a very familiar experience to each of us.

The game consists of using this built in psychology-- the same ingrained habit-- to motivate ourselves, to do all the things we know we can, but for some reason never get around to starting or accomplishing. Here's how it works.

1- Personal Accountability means doing what you promised to do-- for yourself. No one else knows what little goals you set for yourself and no one else knows whether you remain accountable to yourself, or whether you fail.

2- But we always succeed because the tasks we agree to-- are always so minor and easy to accomplish. Because the task is so easy to accomplish, we always succeed, with little or no effort. For instance, if you were to tell yourself that today-- you were going to do one deep-knee-bend and be thankful for one thing-- something-- anything-- before the day is out. Such an exercise would be a very easy exercise to complete.

3- The key to this mindset-- which makes it powerful-- which makes it work-- rests in the simple understanding that-- THE HABIT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE AMOUNT. You found it easy to do one deep-knee-bend, and be thankful for one thing, today... BUT could you do two deep-knee-bends and render two thankful thoughts tomorrow. Two? Everyone agrees, at this point the game is still effortless! Three, four, five? How much real time and effort did it take? Less than a minute? The fact that this mindset is so EASY-- is what makes it so powerful, and universally available to anyone.

4- Day ten. It's taking more time, but the exercise is still very easy to do. Just the fact you've been doing this for a while-- knowing exactly what is expected of you-- knowing in full confidence, that you will successfully accomplish the daily tasks you've agreed to-- keeps going. That's the unexpected part.Your little exercise in personal accountability has grown into a little ritual-- providing you with a daily dose of satisfaction, accomplishment, and continuing success. Day 20? Day 30? You life has noticeably changed, in a very real way.

Now my example, of doing deep-knee-bends and mentally being thankful for one thing, is a good example-- but only an example.Once you understand how the game is played, you can design you own tasks and adjust your daily goals to best suit you experience and temperament. In this way, you can teach yourself to accomplish everything.

Even a tremendous task of great forboding complexity becomes manageable and accomplishable, if only you will agree to devote 1/2 hour each day. More often than not, it is the first few steps that are the most difficult.

(c) 4-2-09 Paul Zozem