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loving a sensitive really not that easy
a special person it takes to understand
my emotional highs and lows are rough
even hard for me at times the empathic
another putting up with me seems silly
every so often someone comes along
alluring me into thinking this is the one
they give their best but run out of gas
after they thought they would fix me
each time I swear never to love again
being empathic an unusual mystical path
only if psychically I’d never fly high again
how easy then to let love’s call pass on by
but my psychic disposition holds out hope
why wouldn’t someone love me this way
out in the world many undergo far worse
therefore I’m not crying out to get pity
I know I'll get beyond this lost love again
still my empathic pain from lost love hurts
and my heighten sensitivity doesn't help
~Keith Alan Hamilton~
a special person it takes to understand
my emotional highs and lows are rough
even hard for me at times the empathic
another putting up with me seems silly
every so often someone comes along
alluring me into thinking this is the one
they give their best but run out of gas
after they thought they would fix me
each time I swear never to love again
being empathic an unusual mystical path
only if psychically I’d never fly high again
how easy then to let love’s call pass on by
but my psychic disposition holds out hope
why wouldn’t someone love me this way
out in the world many undergo far worse
therefore I’m not crying out to get pity
I know I'll get beyond this lost love again
still my empathic pain from lost love hurts
and my heighten sensitivity doesn't help
~Keith Alan Hamilton~
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Re: loving a sensitive
Sun, June 14, 2009 - 6:19 AMjust sharing with others the experience, so they might relate........ please don't try to fix me, I'm fine :o) -
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Re: loving a sensitive
Tue, June 16, 2009 - 2:20 PMThank you, I totally understand. You don't have to justify yourself.
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Re: loving a sensitive
Sun, June 14, 2009 - 7:30 AMI definitely relate. The only person I've found who understands me is completely batsh*t crazy...it's so unhealthy! We are not together but I'm so grateful *someone* understood all the highs and lows. Even if that was all the time we ever spend together. -
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Re: loving a sensitive
Sun, June 14, 2009 - 8:23 AManon124,
glad to hear you can relate :o)
for me, relating with others how i've felt and they in turn has been a wonderful learning experience about others and myself.
thanks,
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Re: loving a sensitive
Sun, June 14, 2009 - 1:53 PMAnon-- I love how you describe that! Made me smile. I totally understand. I've noticed that people I relate to are also a little nutty! But here's the way I see it... they are more interesting than "normal" people, and sometimes I can look at them and take lessons on what not to do. You know... if they handle something in a really crazy way, I can think to myself "Wow, because I relate to them so much, I must be capable of the same behavior. Mental note: DON'T DO THAT"
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Re: loving a sensitive
Sun, June 14, 2009 - 2:47 PMI have been where you have been, now on wife number 3, and this time, it is working ok. The first one was similar to me, but not in touch with her sensitivity, the second was lower IQ,ed had no clue, we were always light years apart, and actually thought my gifts and abilities were impossible and yet evil and satanic.
I find that with any relationship, the best chances of survival comes with as much similarity as possible on the basic points. Same religion or faith, sexual orientation, diet, life goals, language and etc. This last marriage, I married someone more like myself. Some of the items brings you together and give you things to do together, or fun or what ever. The more differences you have, he greater the fight to become one and stay together.
Being a Sensitive or Empath or what ever, is even something more complex and important. It is a form of communication and understanding to deep levels. Not so say ones better half has to be one too, but it really helps. If they aren't and you are, they could honor and take great joy in what you do, and who you are, and love can transcend all things, but still some thing would be missing, and both could be left feeling a bit unfulfilled and satisfied. I get frustrated with my wife at times because of this and she is Sensitive Empath as well, but not where I am at, and she may never be, but we love each other and we have enough in common to make things work.
But it is still often some what frustrating for me, waiting for her to understand something or catch up to me on something.
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Re: loving a sensitive
Sun, June 14, 2009 - 3:54 PMFor me, I find that I am drawn to opposites. And it has worked very well for me. I think I am drawn to them because I am here to help them learn. I guess I am looking for that when I am seeking someone. It helps me balance, as well. When I have been with someone like myself, I tend to be overwhelmed. Sort of like, too much energy running through a power line. It gets too hot and sometimes, dangerous. That has been my experience, at least. I will write more when I have time. I think this is a very interesting thread.... -
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Sun, June 14, 2009 - 6:36 PMI hear you Dee, don't know how I could handle two of me, YIKES!! My husband is quite the opposite but as I learned to respect myself I could relate more to the wisdom in him - we've been actively practicing communication for 14 yrs and 'finally' have things pretty down pat. I tell him what I need and help him relate to that which seems un-relateable to him and visa versa. He's learned over the years to become sensitive to others (he didn't really even notice them before) and I'm learning to be more in-sensitive, lol. We still butt heads too :)
His different way of being is actually refreshing (even though I used to get so darn frustrated/angry with it!!!) because he can function in the world in the way I am just now learning to. He used to see some of my sensitivities as weaknesses but most likely those were projections of how I felt about myself because they seems like strengths to him now that I also see them as strengths. Partners are excellent mirrors!
Interesting side note, as I felt calmer and more respectful and compassionate with myself I saw more wisdom in him and my empathic abilities seemed to get more grounded (I sense at the same level but don't get knocked over so much or feel much emotional/physical pain anymore.
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Re: loving a sensitive
Tue, June 16, 2009 - 1:47 AMI am drawn to opposites too, but that led to my first two bad marriages. This third Marraige which is working, was a prudent selection choice, I married someone more like myself, not a opposite.
I help opposites to some degree, but have to take them in small does, they affect me too much.
David
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Re: loving a sensitive
Tue, June 16, 2009 - 2:45 PMI understand about energy running through a power line. I think I burned out my last boyfriend that way. We are no longer boyfriend and girlfriend, but we are still friends. I told him I was like a lightening rod. And I did overwhelm him.
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Re: loving a sensitive
Sun, June 14, 2009 - 3:13 PM**"Mental note: DON'T DO THAT"**
LOL!!
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Re: loving a sensitive
Tue, June 16, 2009 - 2:07 PMI completely understand. Thank you for voicing my feelings. This is such a lovely tribe. I'm glad I've found it. I feel like I've come home.
