Tribe.net. Local Connections chrissie http://empaths.tribe.net/thread/6b2e9341-3ee7-44af-a103-d59d5cd43c5f#99b2a1c6-4849-4013-aa5a-aa2ec49a4bf1 2009-04-28T23:32:09Z 2009-04-28T23:32:09Z

Being so heart centred is too much compassion sometimes, for ones own and others survival - each of is connected if we want to be to the divine source. So, there is no need to feel bad about cutting cords nor in seperating - which I do highly recommend. Sometimes we are in unhealthy dependency relationships, co-dependency, one fulfills their need to help and heal, but you cannot do it for them, and as you already know you are not benefitting and some draining of energy or being left with thier negativity which you are trying to take on and transmute. You will benifit greatly from learning about connecting your own energy to source, running the energy linear, Breath up energy of earth into your belly, and see it enter through base of spine and breath down the golden energy of heaven down through your crown chakra. Heaven ND EARTH MEET within your heart. If you spend a lot of time initially you will find it can be done in 6-10 breaths, and see it without going up and down in an elevator, just watch the breath. Then you will know you have it. 2ndly breath deeply and look within and see your solar plexus where the ribs meet, and see how big it is?...........probably too big too open. Everything you experience enters here and is felt (gut instinct) so make sure it is only 5cm across, see it full of sunny sunshine yellow. 3rd Imagine your energy boundary around your aura (arms length in every direction) and see electric blue this will see where you end and others begin. and filters negativity. You will have a habit of dropping your boundaries near dear ones, but having all and sundry stepping into your aura to soak up your energy is not good. They need to learn how to get energy and heal instead of making someone else responsible for them. This may sound harsh BUT it is not to saY you cant send them energy but from a position of strength, when you are whole and connected.

chrissie 2009-04-28T23:32:09Z Michelle http://empaths.tribe.net/thread/6b2e9341-3ee7-44af-a103-d59d5cd43c5f#75f3075c-d6d3-4067-ae34-f0e07bc29a00 2009-04-15T19:23:29Z 2009-04-15T19:23:29Z

I so echo Bjarns loving post. It seems that we draw to us matching frequencies and until we change the energy for ourselves we will continue to draw in the old. I believe cutting cords is a loving thing - it give you back your responsibility and them theirs. When you awaken in the morning you will just create more but each day you can create healthier and healthier ones. I must clear the cobwebs of cords every night in order to fall asleep and stay centered. I just say, "The healthy ones will reappear in the morning - the others I let go". The cords are also created in the brain from paths of thought. So when you allow yourself to let go of the old (counseling sometimes helps) and learn to cherish your whole self then new neuro connections will start being made (actually they are already being made or you probably wouldn't have been drawn to post your question to the tribe). You can do it first in your thoughts or first in your relationships or best would be both at the same time. Like Bjarn stated "find other circles to move in " Spend your time around situations/people/environments you wish to attract and become. Soon your old habit/path of feeling/thinking will disappear in favor of the new trail you are blazing. When that happens you will seem to fall off the radar of the people who no longer fit with your new balanced self. Love and light to you on your journey! There is light all around it is just that dramatic movement sometimes stirs up the mud in our etheric pond. Once you center and balance the mud will settle and you will see clearer.

Michelle 2009-04-15T19:23:29Z Bjarn http://empaths.tribe.net/thread/6b2e9341-3ee7-44af-a103-d59d5cd43c5f#024a05e5-20ef-41d7-85f8-588722284e40 2009-04-15T16:16:29Z 2009-04-15T16:16:29Z

You have to first of all forgive yourself for your past mistakes, the shame or guilt you feel is from within you , not from an outside source. After you are able to do that , forgive others and surround yourself with positive things. I stress though that going through the motions of forgiveness , and actually really getting to a place where you truly let the negative emotions about someone else go is very different. Also admit to yourself what you really feel about it , accept it , and then put it away for good. The past can't be changed , only the future starting right now. The people or circles using your past against you are not worth your time , find other circles to move in , that sort of environment , where power is derived from hurting or ridiculing others is not healthy for anyone . I am only talking about this in a general way , as I can only base your situation on what you have said in your post. Let go of the past , do this by letting go of the shame and the hurt , and any angry retaliatory vibes you may have . Bullies and negative people can only affect you as long as you choose to play along with their game , take away their ability to hurt or manipulate you and they have nothing .

Bjarn 2009-04-15T16:16:29Z Aschleigh http://empaths.tribe.net/thread/6b2e9341-3ee7-44af-a103-d59d5cd43c5f#e89365fd-9d46-43a3-a101-8f8bb913b2d0 2009-04-15T01:30:31Z 2009-04-15T01:30:31Z

12 years seems like a long time for a relationship to be purely sexual. I recomend therapy first. There are also other threads about cutting cords and internet sites about it too.

Aschleigh 2009-04-15T01:30:31Z beth http://empaths.tribe.net/thread/6b2e9341-3ee7-44af-a103-d59d5cd43c5f#50a23271-88e3-4266-bde1-9e66532639b1 2009-04-14T22:28:54Z 2009-04-14T22:28:54Z

I am not even sure what the subject line should be but this tribe seems like a good place to post this. I am going through so much stuff and I have no one to bounce it off of- I had a relationship 12 years ago with soemone who was not that well. I knew that but was in quite a desperate part of my life and I guess, in a way, I used this person. I always felt quite ashamed of the relationship but I think mostly because it was so sexual and I think I picke dup all of their shame and guilt etc. Well, now in my community it has come to light that I had this relationship. I never tried to hide it but it was a little bit of a secret I guess. Anyway- this man kinds of repluses me so I have been cutting chords- not in anger- but just so that I can move on with my life sans guilt and shame. Anyway, it's really weird because I am going through all of this stuff with this person- energy exchanges etc., even though I am not in contact with them- it's all at the subliminal level but I do feel kind of energetically stalked. It also has darker elements and I have been struck by the fact that this person was a "trap" and that he took something away from me. I guess he did- it was pretty sordid- I was young and really quite desperate. I am really trying to move beyond it- hence the chord cutting because I realized that when I met him all of my chackras were open- I didn't know anything about all of that stuff then. Anyway, people are using it against me which I consider very mean and adolescent- even if he was this awful troll...doesn't measn that he's not a human being. I live in a small town and this happened just as I moved here. The only reason i can think that people are using it against me is power- which I don't care about anyway- I just don't want to feel all of teh shame, control, etc., that I feel coming from him. The weird thing is that I feel his presence in and around me. I don't want to be aggressive with chord cutting etc., and want to be kind but i do want to be free. It was a mistake- I was wrong to use someone/to be sneaky about it. It was 12 years ago. I want to move on. It's also weid because I have a beautiful old cat and I got a dog 2.5 years ago and my cat has been quite stressed out- I have been trying to find a new home for the dog- but it all seems connected somehow- that and not helping a girl that I think i was supposed to help...anyway, I don't know if anyone knows what I am talking about but I guess my questions are more about cutting energy chords in peace but how do you know what;s your will and just letting it happen. For instance I felt one of my heart chords shielding his chords because he was fighting to stay attached to me- so the sheild came up and his chords attached to the shield but then I felt the chord going deep into my heart with him on the other side of the chord????? so I made the chord come out and cleaned it off...but i felt like that was my will and that I should have just let it go into my heart. I am very confused and do not know what I am doing!!! I just want to be free of all of the shame and guilt but somehow I feel like I am helping him.... and I don't know if that's what I should be doing considering that I feel that he quite hurt me- my reputation- by gossipping about me- and lording around like he still owns a part of my soul- 12 years later??? Any thoughts??

beth 2009-04-14T22:28:54Z