Well it's ok. I know I have unresolved issues with him. He won't talk to me in real life.
In my dreams I am on the phone with him. I say " How are you" He says " I'm in France"
The next day I look on his web site, his pics from his trip to france on it . I knew he was going to Europe, I did not know where until the dream. I trust my dreams. I knew he was in France when I had the dream. It was good dream, pleseant. It's a way of connecting with someone I love but who will not connect out in the open in life.
He won't talk to me in life. So there is no hope of resolving this with him. I think I could if we talked. I also have settled into a sad but accepting place that resolution with him is impossible. But was left unresolved from the relationship. We had sex one night and he walked out my front door and I never saw him again. So "ok this is the end, no conversation at all. " It''s pretty consistant with what I know of him in other arenas. He walks away when there is a new women to latch onto.
Just curious if there can be any thing on my part to sever this connection. If that is appropriate. If my dreams tell me that I still need this or what. I don't know. Don't know if their is anything to be done exactly. A missed opportunity to really love is sad but happens all the time. Or what one does to resolve ( ? ) a deep connection that exists in dreams and other planes but cannot exist here right now.
In my dreams I am on the phone with him. I say " How are you" He says " I'm in France"
The next day I look on his web site, his pics from his trip to france on it . I knew he was going to Europe, I did not know where until the dream. I trust my dreams. I knew he was in France when I had the dream. It was good dream, pleseant. It's a way of connecting with someone I love but who will not connect out in the open in life.
He won't talk to me in life. So there is no hope of resolving this with him. I think I could if we talked. I also have settled into a sad but accepting place that resolution with him is impossible. But was left unresolved from the relationship. We had sex one night and he walked out my front door and I never saw him again. So "ok this is the end, no conversation at all. " It''s pretty consistant with what I know of him in other arenas. He walks away when there is a new women to latch onto.
Just curious if there can be any thing on my part to sever this connection. If that is appropriate. If my dreams tell me that I still need this or what. I don't know. Don't know if their is anything to be done exactly. A missed opportunity to really love is sad but happens all the time. Or what one does to resolve ( ? ) a deep connection that exists in dreams and other planes but cannot exist here right now.
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Re: Dreams about ex.... this sucks
Sun, August 3, 2008 - 7:05 PMFalling in love with the potential and not the reality is one of the biggest pitfalls. You can waste your life there.
It appears that the dream was the closure you wanted..
if he is latching on to every new woman and not wanting to communicate with you for whatever reason, he is obviously not good for you. Let him go.
There could be past life material operating and that is a bitch, something to be solved or remembrance of better times but not this time.
You must accept that and the sooner, the better, as you will stop hurting yourself. Time will heal all this and you wont be dragged back. You will become indifferent.
You can do a tie-cutting exercise, alone or with someone's help. I hear that they really work well.
Yes, it is a little thorny but I think that you know that you had your closure.
i remeber reading this story about a woman who met on the astral plane with her boos as lovers for about three years. This scenario happens a lot more than we think. the potential was just great to but it simply did not translate into anything in real life.
Maybe the guy did not remember his dreams at all or was embarassed .
After the three years, she finally gave up and met her present husband with whom she makes a happy couple.
Don't waste your time.
Potential often means nothing at all. It is someone willing to do it in real life with you that has potential.
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Re: Dreams about ex.... this sucks
Mon, August 4, 2008 - 5:35 AMAschleigh...
Do not hate him,
do not think negative of him,
just "put him in the Lightfull imaginary ball",bless him "stretching your palms over his head"
and let him go..
You have some soul connection still with him,
that may be felt by him also,
and once he may simply ask you to leave him in peace ...That may happen and hurt you..
Again in a dream ...But that will be his soul response to your digging him ...
If he is not back in future,you know this for sure,
then let him go....
Start your own life,Life without past wounds.
~E~
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Re: Dreams about ex.... this sucks
Mon, August 4, 2008 - 5:39 AMYou are rather smart yourself,
understanding what is happening in real.
It is an unresolved relationship.
Unresolved as it made you feel something deeper in you than other relationships did.
Until you do not know what future is making for you,
Live your own life with as less thinking of him as possible,
As no one ever knows ,
The unresolved relationship will find its resoution in this or next life.
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Re: Dreams about ex.... this sucks
Mon, August 4, 2008 - 6:27 PMI answered from a "logical " viewpoint. I understand that these things often are not.
This interesting thread came up in another tribe I am also part of that seemed to explain such things.
I think that we all get them as some point in our lives.
psychic-tech.tribe.net/thread...c869458
Someone commemted elsewhere about doing a link cutting that really worked that really worked. She had been obsessive before.
I tried an exercise by Chris Griscom where you ask the person what colour he/she needs, give it to her/him through the Seventh Chakra, letting the universal energy infuse (you do not use your own energy) and then through the Third Chakra and then imagine the person filling up to heart contentsand then floating away in the universe. It is supposed not to cut the soul connection but to free the personnality.
The first time I tried it , I couldn't go through with it as I felt a very emotional response and the impossibility of cutting a link that I thought was already dead. I tried it the next day and there was absolutely no reaction. No demand for any colour. It had quickly become totally dead.
It worked..... but not in the way that the author had described.
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Re: Dreams about ex.... this sucks
Mon, August 4, 2008 - 6:34 PMI don't know if I am ready to give up this connection.
I don't hate him, never will. I feel sadness for him. I feel so good in my life these days but when I think of him I still feel a sadness.
I'm also not sure that one can cut off a link with another person we love, aren't we are connected through oneness anyway?
I'm just hanging out here in the ambiguity for now. I don't think he will appear. I don't even want that, it would be with too much anger and resentment right now. He seems angry . I was that kind of angry for years and it sucked. It really is unpleasent to be angry for that much time. I understnad, I also am glad to be older and calmer now. Although I still get angry sometimes. -
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Re: Dreams about ex.... this sucks
Mon, August 4, 2008 - 6:41 PMRead the thing from psychic tech support. This guy is shady. He has all sort of stuff that felt harmful and bad for me. He does not have much character in terms of integrity and honesty and yet I was very attracted to him. I would like to see him sometime in the future just to see if he is sexually attractive to me anymore. I have done some real work on myself in the last year and I feel like I can spot an abuser much more readily than I could when I met him. I wonder if he would even have the same pull as he did before. Or I could see it for what it turned out to be, total image , no substance.
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Re: Dreams about ex.... this sucks
Mon, August 4, 2008 - 6:30 PM
it's one of two things, i'd say
the way he left, the lack of communication, and/or the lack
of closure, what you are experiencing resembles something
you experienced in your past, likely as a child ..if you are
able to find such a memory your feelings can shift back to
yourself, away from him, back to the original unresolved
hurt that you left you vulnerable to the hurt you are experiencing
now
or, he may come from a very different background from you,
may have experienced manners of coldness or even cruelty
from others that in some ways may have been a great deal
more hurtful / damaging ..or merely extraordinarily different
from anything you experienced ..in this case it is simply going
to hurt for a while, accompanied by a kind of alienation /
confusion wherein you aren't going to be able to understand
him and what has happened, at least not at the most personal
levels of yourself, where you could relate / empathize in a
way thorough enough for you to be able to create a sensible
closure in yourself ..you'll understand what you can, it wont feel
like enough, but then you will begin to forget him and will no
longer feel like you have to understand
those would be my guesses